Edit: I guess I can kind of see where you are coming from, though still think you are arguing from a position of complete ignorance about rape.
No I'm not because I'm not arguing.
I think that any woman who was raped would feel pretty bad if someone told them "shoulda learned self-defence" and that is why I think your comments are ill-thought out.
I never suggested telling a woman who was raped any such thing. However, as long as YOU bring it up...I do believe that the first person responsible for your safety is you.