It appears that this thread is going in circles. I don’t see any material disagreement regarding the importance of proper weighting in the posts in this thread. Yes, the OP says he likes to weight himself within 1lb of ideal, some others have said they are OK with being within 2-3 lbs. But, that difference isn’t a substantive issue.
As best I can tell, the argument appears to center around whether teaching divers proper weighting is possible if the diver is wearing a BCD. There would appear to be ample evidence – thousands of dives and divers do that all the time, safely and successfully – that it can be done. What is perhaps more important is training divers to learn to control their buoyancy
without using their BCD to the extent possible. The OP seems to think that it cannot be done. Others, with what appears to be a considerable body of experience, think it can. My own experience certainly suggests that it can be done. Starting with Confined Water training divers are ‘encouraged’ to use their breathing (only) to make minor depth adjustments. That process continues through the Open Water dives for initial certification, and beyond. One of the exercises I have divers perform in Advanced Open Water is to pick up and discard a series of weights, while swimming a linear course – without using their BCD to adjust buoyancy. For example, 6 weights are placed on the bottom (usually atop a piece of rock) in a line, approximately 15 feet apart. Each AOW diver has to swim to the first rock, and pick up the first weight, then swim to the second rock (without touching the bottom), deposit the first weight and pick up the second weight, swim 15 feet to third rock, and deposit the second weight and pick up the third weight, etc. The first weight may be 2lb, the second weight 6lb, the third 1lb, the fourth 5lb, the fifth 3lb and the last weight 4lb. Sometimes, I add an 8 lb weight to the mix. They are not allowed to use their BCD (and I and/or my DM are watching them), and the expectation is that they will not silt out the line.

Exercises like this help them learn how to manage their buoyancy with their breathing, rather than their BCD. They don't need to dive without a BCD to learn that.
Before they even do that exercise, they perform a proper weight check, which necessarily involves a fully deflated BCD.
To persist in arguing that the
only way to teach divers how to properly weight themselves is to have them dive without a BCD seems silly. As several have pointed out, it is actually potentially dangerous, and unnecessarily removes a margin of safety. I don’t care to dive with such a limited margin of safety. I certainly don’t care to teach that way. A quote from the movie Deepwater Horizon comes to mind: “Running out of fuel as the plane tires touch the ground is not smart.”