In my case, I primarily dive with people whose training I am familiar with - that addresses a large number of potential issues up front. Additionally, a pre-dive briefing is something I do and expect from everybody I dive with, and gas planning is a big part of that. How that briefing goes can be very instructive. I also don't go on dives where a potential buddy stands a significant chance of injuring me through negligence without having dove with that buddy before. You can learn a lot about a buddy on a shallow dive, and make a decision then about where you're willing to go with them in the future.
To your point, there's rarely harm in checking. For divers without technical training or - really - training in gas planning/management techniques, I would certainly recommend checking. I would ALSO strongly recommend that they seek out training in gas planning/management techniques ASAP.