Lets say you and your wife do a 60' dive. You decide that you will each reserve 1000 psi of gas. Your wife gets down to 1000, and you have 1500. What is the harm of sharing gas until you too are down to 1000 psi? At no point in the dive is either of you below your "rock bottom" reserve. You get to practice an air share under stress-free conditions. If anything, you are enhancing your safety for future dives.
Now, since you know your wife breathes more heavily than you, why wait until you reach her reserve pressure? Why not share gas in anticipation? Say, when you have 2000 psi and she has 1600? I can't see a reasonable objection to this.
Implicit in your objection, it seems, is that sharing gas is a risky undertaking. That may be the case for some divers. All the more reason to practice it when you both have adequate gas.
Okay, that makes sense to me. I had no idea it was common practice to share air when it's not an emergency. It does seem to go against what I was taught. But then, so do many things I read on SB. Also, I can see where the sight of two divers sharing air might cause some alarm among others in a group if they are not advised beforehand that we do this.
We have practiced donating our secondaries to each other on occasion. We've even practiced buddy breathing for what it's worth.