Many great and useful comments here. Thanks everyone. I feel that I need to clarify some things and add some information.
Crush neos are much better for cold water diving. Even a 2 mm crush is significantly warmer than a trilam.
I know that neoprene is warmer, but I have a weird preference towards trilaminate suits. Deep down I feel that trilaminate drysuits are cooler and more “high-tech” and performance oriented. I also like made-to-measure suits and a more form fitting “cave cut” fits as I am broad shouldered and narrow waisted, therefore most garments that aren’t “form fitting” sit baggy on me. And I do realize that neoprene suits have a more fitted and streamlined fit. I am just not a fan of the increase in buoyance you can get as you ascend in neoprene as it decompresses and becomes more buoyant unlike what with trilaminate suits. I also dislike that you apparently need more weight when using neoprene than you do with trilaminate. I know some undersuits and undergarments compress and expand with changing depths and pressures, but I am thinking of and looking for incompressible garments and undersuits. I had completely forgotten about crushed neoprene.
Mixing wool with anything as you do now is a bad idea. No wonder you're getting cold with wool under your drysuit.
I use Merino Wool for socks and base layers as I’ve understood it is sweat wicking as well as insulating even when wet. Otherwise, I have a mix of fleece shirts, sweatshirts, and pants.
Personal tolerance is a factor that prevents a good universal answer. 0°C is likely to add other limiting factors. At what point will you feet, hands, head be cold to the point that you call a dive, even if you manage to keep the body warm? And generally best to not put too much dependence on the electrical system. You need to survive if the heat fails. Maybe not the most comfortable, but tolerable.
It’s hard to say where the threshold is that my hands and feet start to really freeze during a dive. I can say that I ALWAYS walk around with my hands in my jacket/pants pockets to keep them warm, even during warmer weather. As for my feet, I really notice when standing still slightly chilly conditions. I suspect I have generally bad circulation to my extremities.
I completely agree that a warm enough undersuit/undergarment set needs to be just warm enough/tolerable before even thinking about electric heating. I would rather not be too chilly and have the heating to get to a more comfortable temperature especially towards the middle/end of the dive.
Once you have your suit, pick a set of undergarmets, make sure they fit you, and make sure they fit in your suit. A suitable diving undergarment resists some compression and keeps loft and warmth longer, so while picking out ideal fabrics like wool is a good start, if you get a squeeze they often don't loft back up to the level they were at the start of the dive, meaning you're colder.
I’ve thought it more logical to get the undergarment system first, and THEN getting the right size/fit of a drysuit to fit your thickest undersuit setup, but maybe I’m wrong. I’ve looked at some made-to-measure instructions that suggest you have your undersuit on while you get measured (Seal SL:01 for example). Just seems counterintuitive to get to drysuit first and then the undersuit if you don’t know how thick the undersuit/undergarment setup might be.
Make sure your hands, feet, and head are also relatively warm. While it is important to keep your core warm, I've seen many people dive with thin hoods, thin socks, no undergloves (I'm assuming you're diving dry gloves but I probably shouldn't), and wonder why they're cold.
I do use a 7mm hood and must use at least some glove liners with dry gloves. I have some very warm and thick gloves, but I hate not being able to feel what I’m doing with my fingers with such thick gloves, hence wanting heated gloves/liners that are thinner. For socks I use two layers of Merino Wool and sports socks, while the boots have been attached tech boots that were slightly oversized due to the suit being a rental.
First, go with a crushed neo suit. Custom made suits (I mean full made-to-measure) with good crushed neoprene will give you the flexibility and the warmth you want. SF Tech is my choice.
I’m getting a feeling that neoprene might be what I need, but I still like the idea of more flexibility and mobility with thinner trilaminate materials compared to stiffer and thicker neoprene. You are all starting to make me seriously think about neoprene though.
Keep the great advice and suggestions coming!