Thanks for your reply. I agree with you that a dedicated dive resort is probably best. I just take it personally when a place based on tourism doesn't seem able to secure its visitors.
I've not been to Cayman. It seems very expensive ... but what is the cost of victimization?
On the plus side, my friend is now an Open Water Diver and really liked the diving.
We love Bonaire, we've never found anyplace else quite like it because of the funky vibe and feeling of diving freedom, and the great diving! We've been there many times and would still be going there - if we weren't getting older and experiencing some medical issues that have made it more difficult and not as much fun.
And I totally agree that you always need to be mindful and cautious and that crime can happen anywhere - but we started going to Bonaire in the mid-1990s and thievery was a problem back then and it's still a problem. It's such a small place and I believe that the authorities could do a much better job of reducing and controlling crime if they really wanted to do so. It's almost like some of the locals view crime against tourists as an entitlement or expectation, and it makes me feel like a bit of a chump for going there and spending money and inviting opportunities for victimization.
We were never robbed on Bonaire, but friends that were diving with us during one trip had a break-in at their rental unit (while we were all out on a night dive) and they lost some jewelry and other valuables, so I know from experience that it is real. It ruined the trip for them and they never returned.
Whenever someone on SB is looking for opportunities to do a lot of good diving cheaply, especially shore diving - I am happy to recommend Bonaire - but I always add a warning about the issue of thievery and the need for caution - because that's just the way it is and no one in authority seems interested in change.
In regards to your comment about dedicated dive resorts. We have found them to be best in locations where we are uncomfortable due to safety concerns - but that may be a false sense of security as demonstrated by the recent reports about the American woman that was assaulted, strangled, beaten, and left for dead, by a guy wearing a hotel uniform on a 5-star resort property in the Dominican Republic - so you have to be alert and careful everywhere.
But dedicated dive resorts may also be a nice choice when there aren't many amenities available in the location (like San Salvador Bahamas or Little Cayman) or when you can find a great package at a nice place with good diving and at a decent price. A great deal on a liveaboard works the same way - you get food, lots of great diving, and accommodations all in one place and at one price - a "turnkey dive trip" as others have said.
That can be very nice, but it is can also be nice to get out and see the country and have the opportunity to explore and try different eateries and meet locals. It all depends on the place and your vacation preferences.
In response to your comment of "I've not been to Cayman. It seems very expensive...but what is the cost of victimization?" It's no secret that I am a fan of all 3 Cayman islands and of Cayman diving, and I would never call it a cheap vacation destination, but we do feel safe there and sometimes you really do get what you pay for.
And if you do some comparison shopping and planning you can have a great diving vacation in Cayman at a reasonable price. The airfares are usually decent and travel is easy, and the rental car prices are cheap - especially if your credit card provides insurance. You don't have to worry about eating the food, drinking the water, or contracting a tropical disease, so that's got to be worth something.
If you travel to Cayman (or anywhere in the Caribbean during the lower seasons) the price may drop dramatically although the risk of rough weather increases - the ABC islands have an advantage in that area.
You just have to weigh the pros and cons of each location and venue and then make the best decision that fits your goals and meets your budget - and safety concerns should be included in the decision-making process. So just don't write Cayman off completely because you think that it may be too expensive.