I don't know you, but you sound super pretentious in the above post. I'm sure you are probably better than what you just posted, so I would go back and think about what you just said, and how many potential additions you just soured. You can get butt hurt all you want, but just being whiny about it is not going to fix anything. You are right, the only long threads in the "DIR" sub-forum are the ones arguing about "DIR". Why don't you leadership types...lead. Conspire with Lamont (he seems friendly enough) and make it a better forum, create more stickies, set up events, and educate people. If someone is conducting guerrilla warfare against you, then win the support of the people (so to speak). Instead of sounding like you got your drysuit underwear stuck in your butt crack, become a Mao or a Che in your community. The fact that your community is small and people complain about it on here means that your community as a macro level entity is doing something wrong. If you would like any creative suggestions on how to conduct an effective counter-insurgency campaign I would even be willing to assist.
You're fairly new to SB, and haven't seen the history.
Let's say somebody comes into your house and starts criticizing how you arrange your furniture, how you raise your kids, how you handle your finances. They don't even try to understand WHY you do those things ... they just criticize because it's not how they do it.
You try to explain it, and they completely ignore the logic and focus on minutiae and completely irrelevent assumptions.
Finally they get tired of the discussion and leave.
A week later somebody else comes into your home and does the same thing.
A week after that, it happens again.
This goes on for several years.
How ... diplomatic ... would you be after, oh say, 50 or 60 of these conversations.
A lot of us put a LOT of effort into answering these questions as diplomatically and helpfully as we can. Most times our answers are completely ignored ... because they don't correspond to the preconceived notions of the people who started the conversation ... who are almost always egged on by non-DIR people who repeatedly display the EXACT SAME BEHAVIOR that they rail against the DIR folks for.
Gets a bit tiring after a while ... almost anyone who's human will eventually reach a point where all they want to tell you is just "GO AWAY".
Can you blame them?
Stick around for a while ... this whole conversation will repeat itself in a week or two.
It's like Groundhog Day ...
... Bob (Grateful Diver)