eckybay:
Okay....Here's the deal...I'm all ready to take my AOW class. Find out that the instructor I want to take it with is offering it in August.
Being the good girlfriend, I check to make sure the other half doesn't have something going on. He suddenly recalls that it's his best friend's baby's baptism.
I passed on taking AOW last summer because it was said best friend's wedding.
So the dilemma...diving or duty... I know which one I *want* to choose...
Duty?
You have a duty to attend your own children's Baptism, and your God-children's, and your nieces & nephews. You have
some duty to attend your friends' children's Baptism even though you're not a principle participant, and there's a
thin thread of duty to attend all Baptisms at your own church.
But a boyfriend's best friend's baby?
That thread of duty is so thin I'd paint it more as "it's ok for your boyfriend to bring you along" than any "duty" on your part. Somehow I don't think any of the baby's family will miss you. I know that when that kind of situation comes up with me and the Lovely Young Kat, I encourage her to grab the opportunity for further education.
If he doesn't suggest you take the class on his own, I'd just tell the boyfriend "I'd really love to be there, but I have to take this opportunity to take my AOW class that I've been waiting on since before the baby was even born."
You can feel "bad" about it, or not
Your choice. Personally, I'd send a little silver "Baptism rattle" and go diving.
Rick