Hello,
I have hesitated to post this but I guess as a last ditch effort in possibly maintaining my sanity I will seek out advice or thoughts.
I have a trip coming up in a few days. I am booked as a solo diver. I normally dive with my wife, we are good divers with a variety of dives and dive conditions and certs, under our belts. I have been on several trips and seen several, shall we say "clowns" on the boats and in the water. I am always thankful that my wife is my buddy. She knows me. I trust her. She dives like I do with respect for the water and conservatively.
That being said - we are having a few "issues" that I believe will be resolved over time and she has "opted out of this trip".
Here is my issue: I thought initially it would not be a problem, I will still go - I need a break from life, work and stress anyways. For me my dives have always been complete serenity....quiet other than sounds of the ocean and bubbles, complete relaxation. As it draws near to be perfectly honest I am scared. Scared to be in the water and diving without my wife. I keep telling myself it will be fine - stick with the DM and the group (these will be led dives - very easy). I fear I will get stuck with a "clown", poor diver or inexperienced as a buddy and it will cause my already existing stress to double or perhaps go into overdrive.
I thought about cancelling completely but I do not think that is the answer.
What to do? Do I talk to a DM, the staff.....do I tell them these things.....do I not dive??
I have hesitated to post this but I guess as a last ditch effort in possibly maintaining my sanity I will seek out advice or thoughts.
I have a trip coming up in a few days. I am booked as a solo diver. I normally dive with my wife, we are good divers with a variety of dives and dive conditions and certs, under our belts. I have been on several trips and seen several, shall we say "clowns" on the boats and in the water. I am always thankful that my wife is my buddy. She knows me. I trust her. She dives like I do with respect for the water and conservatively.
That being said - we are having a few "issues" that I believe will be resolved over time and she has "opted out of this trip".
Here is my issue: I thought initially it would not be a problem, I will still go - I need a break from life, work and stress anyways. For me my dives have always been complete serenity....quiet other than sounds of the ocean and bubbles, complete relaxation. As it draws near to be perfectly honest I am scared. Scared to be in the water and diving without my wife. I keep telling myself it will be fine - stick with the DM and the group (these will be led dives - very easy). I fear I will get stuck with a "clown", poor diver or inexperienced as a buddy and it will cause my already existing stress to double or perhaps go into overdrive.
I thought about cancelling completely but I do not think that is the answer.
What to do? Do I talk to a DM, the staff.....do I tell them these things.....do I not dive??