How do I prevent this panic/ disorientation from taking place in the future; does anyone have any tips for deep dives and also for clearing masks when you have an issue with water around your nose?
My wife had similar issues when beginning her OW skills training. We literally spent a couple of hours in the pool with just her mask and snorkel slowly working on getting her face wet.
Her process was: (of note each and every process was done multiple times. Slow and methodical. Backtrack a bit as needed to keep the calm)
Snorkel for a bit. Get calm. Let some water in. Get calm. Stand and clear mask.
Snorkel for a bit. Get calm. Let some water in. Get calm. Stand but stay face down and clear mask.
Snorkel for a bit. Get calm. Let some water in. Get calm. Float face down and clear mask.
Her pinnacle was when she could snorkel for a bit, dive and flood both her mask and snorkel, surface, clear the snorkel, breath, clear the mask.
A slightly different take on DevonDiver's "fast path" sentiment, I was very pleased by her ability to work on a method to make slow incremental progress. I didn't need a fast path for her to figure out she didn't want to do this. I needed her as my buddy!
I would encourage pool time with one singular goal of getting comfortable with water in your mask. It is going to happen from time to time. Be prepared to fix it.
Good luck. You can do this! Oh and PS, we are taking AOW later this summer. Woot!