Just for my info, if you found an alternative to the GFs, another mean of adding conservatism to Buhlmann's model I mean, would you try it?
Difficult to say yes or no. What alternative could there be? Personally I like the stops occurring deeper as per VPM but a longer hang in the shallows, like Buhlmann. I can fudge that up with 10/75 on Decoplanner. As it stands, I've just moved back the UK, so I'll stick with the decoplanner and see how my body reacts in the colder waters.
I am curious why the owner even 'asked'. When he called initially, he could have said that the op preferred to have all divers on the same gasses (and schedules), he could have said he wanted the other divers in the group to know that you had asked for a different mix before agreeing to it, or that he normally considers all tec divers on a charter to be a single team, etc. etc. I don't happen to agree with those views, but I can understand ops that take that position. In other words, he could, and should, have let you know before you showed up to analyze the gas that there might be an issue. As you suggested and most have agreed, the difference in terms of dive parameters (deco schedules, gas compatibility across divers) was trivial. The only thing not trivial was the additional costs to you. Perhaps, some would even say the difference in cost was trivial (at least compared to the overall cost of the charter and the 20% helium to begin with), but that is your call and not someone else's. I REALLY don't like someone else telling me what gasses I am going to dive, without my input, and that issue has little to do with money. Having said that, I don't know the usual and customary procedures with the charter op you were using, the personality of the owner, etc. And, I don't think there would have been anything wrong with him telling you - when he first called - that 'policy' required you do what the rest of the 'team', or simply the majority of divers, was doing, and that would have given you the opportunity to choose to stay or bail in advance.
You're right, the 10% extra was a trivial extra. The funny thing was how the dive op let me analyse while watching over my shoulder and didn't mention that there was more helium in the mix until after analysis.
I was definitely not part of the team. The other guys all were diving ratio deco, with all the DIR trimmings. I'm on my own cruising around with my 50% happily strung on my right hand side wondering where I could get some bungee for my long hose. They probably wouldn't have wanted to share gas.