Diving accidents happen and sometimes they result in someones death.
Most diving accidents are the result of human error.
We can lessen our chances of making the same mistakes if we are prepared for them.
Often we are better prepared when we learn of mistakes others have made.
I know that someday I will die. I know that my death could be the result of a diving accident.
If it is, then it will probably because I made a mistake.
Everyone makes mistakes. The fact that I made a mistake, in no way diminishes me. It is far from my first mistake. I can admit to my mistakes. If it was my mistake that caused my death, then thats merely a part of life. Its OK for my friends and family to admit I made a mistake that killed me.
Discuss the accident, learn from it, speculate about it, and if thats where it belongs, throw the blame squarely on my shoulders. Its highly unlikely the blame should rest in any other place. Use it to learn and help other divers be safe. Dont change or omit names to protect the innocent. Be open, be forthcoming with details.
Rejoice in my life, honor me as a person, a person who was not perfect, but who touched you in spite of and perhaps, in some ways, because of my imperfections.
Rejoice that my death may serve to help keep someone safe.
Oh, and dont say I passed left us or any other indirect way of referring to my death. Tell people I died. Death is natural, death is expected, death is necessary.