My GF uses the Zena; she loves it. I would say that it is probably one of the better BC products out there that's designed specifically for women, and Zeagle is a good outfit. Having said that, some equipment just doesn't always work for everyone.
If you are new to diving, then it is probably just a matter of getting your weighting setup correctly to balance well with the other things you have on (and perhaps a little practice); this is very common for those just starting out. Most new divers tend to be over weighted. Your ability to control your bouyancy will come in-due-time as you get more dives under your belt, and you will eventually need to carry less weight as your skills improve.
Buoyancy control is as much art as it is science, and the problems you're conveying are probably not due to your BC. However, if your BC has any additional weight compartments on the tank bans, I would remove those holders from the BC entirely. Keep the weight in the front zippered drop-in pockets. As ajduplessis points out, one of the most important other factors is simply learning how to relax and slow down, as well as training yourself to breath properly. All of these things will add up to better trim in the water, and less of the up-n-down's.
The term "less is more" holds true in diving more-so than in most other sporting endeavors. Everything you take with you can have an effect on your buoyancy and thusly the lengh and enjoyment of your adventure. The less you have on, the less weight you'll likely need to carry. Still, if you're uncomfortable with the equipment you have, then you may need to try something else. Unfortunately, diving just is one of those activities that is very equipment dependant, and sometime it takes a while to arrive at a profile that fits your needs.
The basic mark of a good well-rounded diver will always be a combination of sound safety practices backed-up by good bouyancy control skills. Focus on these, and you'll earn the respect of the diving community, and get more enjoyment from the sport.
Hope this help.