Dump valves can get sticky. The USIA rep here on this board gave me a great tip -- soak the valve overnight in distilled water, and then again overnight in water with a few drops of liquid Ivory soap in it. I have rejuvenated several sticky valves that way.
If the valve isn't working after that treatment, they are not horribly expensive or complicated to replace.
BUT -- you have to make sure you are actually getting the dump valve to the highest spot. Depending on where it is located, that can be difficult (although I don't think I've ever seen a DUI suit with a really misplaced valve).
With regards to the crotch squeeze problem -- it's very simple. Physics makes gas go to the highest point in the suit. If the bottom of the suit is squeezed against you, then your crotch is lower than your shoulders, no matter what you THINK about your position in the water. It is virtually impossible to tighten BC straps enough to keep air from migrating around in the suit (I wear a 20 lb weight belt cinched as tight around me as I can get it, and believe me, air has no problem getting to my feet
).
If you are truly horizontal and have gas in the suit, and your crotch is still uncomfortable, it is possible that the suit doesn't fit, and is simply too short for you from neck to crotch. You can diagnose that on land, by looking at the tension in the fabric when you are simply standing up, and by bending over to touch your toes. If you can't do it because the suit is binding, it's too small.
Buoyancy control in a dry suit is more challenging than with a wetsuit and BC, because the air bubble has so much more freedom to move around, so you really have to anticipate buoyancy changes and start venting the suit well before you think you need to. I think many of us have stories of yoyoing buoyancy and unplanned ascents, before we mastered the delicate art of drysuit management. (At least, I do!)