I can understand your concern and Bonaire might not be for you. I like it because:
1 - Diving arm-in-arm with my sweetheart, no one else to disturb us.
2 - Dive without other divers to worry about, get kicked by, or swam over/under me.
2 - No drama or problems from other divers with issues, running out of air, etc..
2 - Dive without some group taking over the boat.
2 - When I see something cool and want to take a photo, I don't have to worry about some other diver swimming under/over me to get their photo.
3 - Dive what time I want at my leisure, no boat schedule.
4 - Dive the site I want. Not up to a captain or other unknown diver.
5 - Dive the depth and profile I want, stop and look at whatever I want without a dive guide pushing the group along.
6 - Free Nitrox in most cases.
7 - Cheap dive costs.
8 - Relaxing dive environment.
9 - Great dive sites with wonderful quality.
10 - Relaxing surface interval at my leisure and schedule.
I am pretty fed up with bad divers and cattle boats as you can tell. If you don't want the freedom, then you are welcome to put up with the "fun" of boat diving with a bunch of unknown divers. Oh, and I've not had crime problems but I don't feel the need to take a bunch of stuff along with in in the truck. I leave a towel, a hat, cheap sunglasses, and a couple of bottles of water in the unlocked truck.
If you'd rather dive from boats with valet diving service then that's what you should do. Nothing wrong with that.