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I doubt the posts on a Men's Issues Forum would ALL be puerile: for the Love of my three fellows; my brother, my husband and my son, (Sunny day diver, Sunday Diver and Someday Diver respectively) and others male divers and their caring partners might want to ask about delicate topics if given a "safe space" some easy examples:As I said in the PM: In a male dominated sport, having a men's forum would only be placating puerile pot stirrers.
Most of the topics discussed in a men's forum would be a TOS violation.
i guess I'm not a member of the core audience for a Men's Issues forum...I doubt the posts on a Men's Issues Forum would ALL be puerile: for the Love of my three fellows; my brother, my husband and my son, (Sunny day diver, Sunday Diver and Someday Diver respectively) and others male divers and their caring partners might want to ask about delicate topics if given a "safe space" some easy examples:
1) diving and Viagra: already covered in Dive medicine. Seduction Salvation = Decompression Doom, leave the Thrill Pills off the packing list.
2)Hairy Guys and Dry Suit seals, best options for male divers whose furry wrists and back of neck are usually associated with Rise of a Full Moon: waxing? Shaving? Cornrows don't work.
3)Beer Gut and No Butt: best weight belt options that don't slide right off the Dad Bod? I actually know a guy who makes a specialty custom harness for this situation. PM me for contact info.
Granted, these orphan topics can be given a spot on the wide open public view of other Forums, but take pity on the shy guy, and give them a Men's Forum.
i guess I'm not a member of the core audience for a Men's Issues forum...
Shrinkage in cold conditions is inevitable. And it's not a purely male issue, it affects straight women as well.hmmm really...I think I remember a quote to the effect of "where I dive it's so cold if you can find my junk, I'll give you a medal" ...or something like that...
He is Rockin' that Teddy Bear.And don't forget the all important Men's dive fashion section - Warning you can't unsee this...and it's not me.
Diver0001. I think you are perhaps sincere and obviously I have not had the time nor the eloquence to try and explain my perspective. But you still don't get it. It is not "us vs them" that I am espousing but rather just the opposite. I think NWGratefuldiver stated it well as equivalency vs equality.That's exactly the "us versus them" thinking that I was referring to above.
Nobody says that women need to meet a male model. If you think back from the days of 1980's feminism then there was a definite intention to break down that model. That's also what is required; to engage in the ambient culture in order to effect changes. I phrased that above as engaging men as equals. What that means is to simply be yourself and call men out on their BS if they are being patronizing or sexist.
Think of it like this. When you combine hydrogen and oxygen, what results is neither hydrogen nor oxygen. It is something entirely else, namely water. This is what happens in society too if people are willing to interact with one another. Society evolves to accommodate differences...
I know this can be frustrating and take a lot of patience. I know this first hand because I am a minority in the country where I live and there is a lot of "anti foreigner" sentiment.... but I also know that if I allow myself to engage in "us versus them" thinking that I will shoot myself in the foot because as soon as you start thinking that the ambient culture is something bad that would prefer to reject then you are allowing yourself to be marginalized and you are no longer in a position to participate as an equal and affect any change for the better.
So when you ask why you have to conform to a male model, this is exactly what you are doing, rejecting "them" and in the process putting yourself in a pigeon-hole. That's not fair to yourself and that approach is an absolute guarantee that equality will remain out of reach.
So when I suggest to "engage" men as equals that doesn't mean "be like men", it means "be a woman and make sure men respect that".
Just a point of view, of course. We've drifted quite a way from the OP and I'm in danger of making this into a dissertation on feminism so I guess I should leave it at that and drop out of the discussion now so it doesn't get any more derailed.
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The solution is not to make women like men in order for equal but to value the skills and contributions of women.
p.s. I apologize for totally derailing this thread. Perhaps a mod would like to split it or something.