Where is the line between minding my own business?

[jupitermermaid]

Thank you for warning others. There is no doubt that you did the right thing. If you start to wonder if you did the right thing or not ask yourself if you would want your family members diving with her.

I wouldn't even want my ex to dive with her....

 

[tomboyy]

No, she does NOT warn anybody she likes to do her own thing. She didn't tell us until we tried several times to find out why she didn't stay with us. I looked at her post just now, and she responded to my question with, "The Nuerologist said 2 months, so that puts me at September 25. On the other hand, the psychologist said... " Actually, our first dive was July 25, so she's taking the 2 months to mean from our first day of diving rather than the day of the accident....

So, I'm hearing that I should maybe write a blog on that board posting the accident (without mentioning her name and letting others put the missing pieces, such as names, together?) Some of the people on the board know of our trip together.

That response should tell prospective buddies something... maybe ... I hope

 

[Calle Roo]

Jupiter, maybe you can now respond with "I hope the lung has healed" or "stear clear of the DChamber this trip and goodluck."

 

[ruready7]

I agree it was the right thing to do.

 

[Jim Lapenta]

She's an idiot. You did the right thing. This is one of those people who is better off doing her own thing on her own and not putting other people at risk. Let Darwin have her.

 

[diver 85]

If you're paying for her casket, you did the right thing-----otherwise, it's her life---you can not live it for her OR make her decisions..............

 

[Guba]

Yup, you did the right thing with the post on the other board.
By the way, J-maid, nice save. While you did put yourself at a bit of risk (blowing the stop), it was probably a good thing you did. In my opinion, you saved that person's life (she did go unconscious, after all) and you are to be commended. Now, we can only speculate how many others you might have saved from injury, inconvenience, and frustration with your post.

 

[Sparhawk13401]

By the way, J-maid, nice save. .

I'll second that! You were a good buddy - even when you weren't getting one in return.

Hopefully she'll learn better BEFORE she really hurts herself or someone else.

 

[mwilding]

But "Have you been cleared by the neurologist; you crazy, freakin' dangerous, inconsiderate, nut bag" may have left a little less room for misunderstanding by her next unsuspecting victims.

 

[UnderSeaBumbleBee]

If you're paying for her casket, you did the right thing-----otherwise, it's her life---you can not live it for her OR make her decisions..............

Yes it is her life, but here is the rub. If she were diving solo it would be one thing. She is putting other peoples lives at risk by how she is diving. You know they have a life too and they might not want to dive with someone who thinks that the rules of diving don't apply to them. I would want to know about such a person before I went along on a dive with them.

When I was a very new diver, (I still consider myself new--just not very new) there was this dive master who touted himself as a good diver. Even as a noob I wondered what was up with this guy. A couple of seasoned divers took me aside and said "be careful, this guy is a bent case waiting to happen." And they were right. Just got word that Mr Bent Case Waiting to Happen in fact happened. He is lucky to be alive and those who dove with him are lucky that they didn't get hurt with his many unsafe practices. I heard him say last summer that he almost ran out of gas on 140 dive due to a free flow while he was waiting for his lift bag to hit the surface and his reg began to free flow. He often bragged of his many escapes. I heard him with my own ears more than once. I haven't heard all the details, but what I have heard is not pretty.

Boyle's law really doesn't care who you are, but you should care to avoid those who think they are above the effects of it.