If the two of you are not planning on going tech, then I think it would be much better for you to do fundies with a single tank setup.
That probably IS the way you will do most dives, so this is where you want to get the most out of fundies....
I would also add, that for many women and smaller men, wearing doubles on land..carrying doubles on the boat or parking lot--is probaly far more likely to cause you an injury than anything else you will ever do in diving. You go past the critical threshold of the weight your back can handle, or in climbing up the ladder on the boat, what your hips and lower back can handle...and for many people, it is begging for trouble....If you are 200 pounds and a gym workout is nothing, then this is completely a non-issue.
And then there is the charter boat issue. Most charter boats are NOT set up well for divers wearing doubles..and the way they do dives is not ideal....typically each dive you will get an hour or less per dive ( depending on the charter boat), and almost no boats give you more than this, meaning a single 100 is all most divers are going to need...and if you are using a double tank rig on a recreational boat, after you do your first dive, you really need a 2nd set of doubles for your second dive...because if you were diving with GOOD single tank divers, you will no longer have enough air in your doubles for another full dive with good single tank diver buddies--you will be severely limited by your gear. If you bring two sets of double 80's....sure you will have the gas for two dives, but you will take up much more space than charter boats are set up to give you....at least if the trip is fairly well booked with divers.