Thought I would update this.
I bought a oxycheq wing with 45# lift and a weighted STA. Its about 13 lbs negative with the harness and everything. I bought two dive rite hinge style cam straps...kinda like scubapro only smaller hinge. I got an Oceanic regulator and octo. I also got some weight pockets that go on my harness and hold up to 15 lbs each and are made by Deep outdoors. I just dove all this stuff for the first time at Eastern Point Beach in Groton, CT over by Pfizers global namufacturing headquarters.
First problem was that my dry mock up of the harness did not translate well once weight was added to the pockets and a tank on my back...and everything was wet. The pockets sagged to my upper thighs. I had 12 lbs in each pocket. I tried to take some time to slide everything back closer to the plate, but I did not have a lot of time as people were a little impatient...So I threw the crotch strap on and took off. My attitude in the water was just fine other than the two sacks of lead hanging a good 6-8" away from my body. Surface time was rough as I did tend to be pushed foward, however, I did have the tank way to high on my back and I also had weights sagging around my thighs. I also wouldnt have minded a shoulder dump on the wing. There is only one pull dump on the lower left side. Sometimes I had to roll a bit to get the last bit of air out. No more than with any other backinflate BC. I did feel like a rocket in the water and I also think I could have dropped a few of my 36 lbs. I am so glad I did buy this type of setup...despite the DM telling me "it looks kinda silly". I love the fact that it is a modular system that I can shange or ajust as my needs change or repairs demand. Anyway sorry for the long post, but I thought I would share. Thanks to all who have shared advice to a new diver.