My wife and I are pretty new divers. I enjoy the sport so I have been nailing the ratings one by one. (I just finished my Assistant Instructor) By no means am I a hardcore dude
But diving a submerged 17th century church does give me a woody. Anyways we just moved back from Thailand, so I do not know if the availability of gear differs in the USA. I am not a tec diver, I just love swimming with the fish, wrecks and sunken cities. As sick as it may sound, I also enjoy diving in low visibility, that way everything you bump into is a nice surprise.
Sea Quest Pro QD (Integrated Weights)
I wanted a BCD with integrated weights because I dont like messing with weight belts. Yes it has wings, which also means it has nice big pockets and many D rings.
Aqua Lung Titan LX Supreme (Hard to find in Thailand)
It breaths well for me all the way down to 40 meters, Nitrox Compatible and is able to dive in cold water (Supreme) I havent done any ice diving or dry suit work, but if I ever want to, I think this will work.
Aqua Lung LX Supreme alternate second stage.
Atomic split fins They are big and test show they are supposed to be a good all around fin. They were also recommended to me and have worked out well. I am 63 with size 13-15 shoe so they also fit well.
Fins for the wife It has been difficult finding a fin my wife likes. She is 100lbs and a pretty small frame. I hope to get her into the aqua blue, their new fin that is a little shorter and softer. She is using kids fins now.
Retractor Yes I do use it and I like it. My BCD has an opening for one so it does not dangle. I then added a climbers ring to it allow for fast change of accessories. At night I will attach my spare light to it and push it under my BCD so it does not hang and during the day, my slate if I desire.
A little Wenoka dive knife with some Collins guy signature. Its little, it mounts on the holes in my BCD so I do not have to think about it until I rinse it post dive.
UK lights We bought a kit of three lights on sale. It worked out well because I was shopping for two. I have found that I like the smaller light when visibility is down.
PONY BOTTLE PONY BOTTLE PONY BOTTLE Sometimes I like to dive alone, it is very relaxing for me, but with that are some added risk, so I invested in a pony bottle (6cf). The downside is it does not travel as well as the spare air, but I have twice the capacity.
Tank This was a mistake
I bought the steel Faber 121 which when empty is positive 4 lbs. I did not know this at the time of purchase. +4 does not sound like much; it is about the same as an al 80, but kind of a bummer for a steel tank. XS Scuba (Worthington) has a steel 121 that comes out about 2 empty.
Computer Atmos 2 OK in all modes. I want the D-9, but I am waiting for the third or forth generation. I have seen too many problems with .1 and .2 of the D-9. I can live with $200, but I do not want to be stuck with $1,400
Wetsuits
I had one that fit well and looked ok, but then my wife stepped out of the changing room and looked really hot in her wet suit, that cost almost as much as my BCD, so I found one on clearance, so I could I always check out the curves on my wife, even under water.
I know none of this equipment is extreme, but it works well for me and for my needs. So good luck finding equipment that works out for what YOU want to do now and in the future. Several people have told me that I can get up to ten years out of my equipment. I hope that is true. I spend more time than anyone else I know rinsing my gear trying to add that extra year of life to it.
Good luck and have fun with your diving. For me it has been great because it is the only sport my wife and I do together. She does not like to run 20 miles with me, will not let me throw her down the side of a snow covered mountain or bike 100 miles uphill with me. But she will go to gun club, church and we always love to scuba.
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She does fly with me.