I sympathise with you and agree too much going on at the same time.
I recently got a new drysuit and had a lot of trouble getting under with a single 15L steel tank. Added loads of weight but still had problems. After serious thought later I suspect I did not manage to get all the air out of the DS.
I have done a DS course but a while ago. I also dived on twin steel 12L's in a different DS two months before and had no problem getting under with 8kg weight belt. The problem on that dive was I got VERY wet - suspected neck seal was bad fit. Thats what decided be to buy a brand new DS ( the other was used and will hopefully be sold - Waterproof Draco)). I just could not be bothered to mess about getting a new neck seal glued in.
I'm diving tomorrow in my new suit, first with full twin kit ( steel 12's, steel backplate harness etc) and do a full weight check. Plan is twins will be around 50 bar pressure only and weight check and practice in about 7 metres of depth and practice holding deco stops around 3 - 5m to get weighting bob on. Once that is cracked out of water, change kit to my single rig and perform similar weight check with a 50 bar steel 15L tank, since I dive twin 12L & deco tank, and sometimes single 15L steel (no deco). My buddy will help me with weighting adjustments as we will take extra's in with us.
Once weighting is cracked just practice descents, ascents, stops and also figure out how much squeeze I can let the DS have on me, since I am usually a wetsuit diver. My new DS is a Waterproof DX1 Hybrid and the inner lining virtually eliminates squeeze, so its just a matter of getting familiar with the suit.
Personally I think it is too much to handle the unfamiliarity of a drysuit plus twins on a backplate and wing since it is very different to a BCD.
I would suggest crack the DS first, then learn twins with a wing, only then put the two together.
I did the TDI Advanced Nitrox and Deco Courses in September and used twin steel 12L, 7l Al deco tank and a 60 pound lift wing. I was quite new to twins then and had some very interesting experiences on the first few dives getting the hang of the big wing, ass up in the air suddenly, lost buoyancy etc etc. I was frustrated since I am an Instructor and set high standards of myself and forgot what it was like to be a student. Fortunately my instructor was VERY patient and told me it takes time to get used to the wing. I did some additional dives apart from the course dives to crack that monster wing and got there in the end - so much so that I got myself a 50 lb wing ( thought behind being I might eventually do a Trimix course so got plenty of lift) and have had no issues when in a wetsuit with twin rig, no weights needed.
I found with twins patience was the key and not beating myself up every time the wing got in control of me, rather than the other way around - I shall apply the same principle tomorrow with the DS. Fortunately my buddy is a very experienced diver and an Instructor and we often do fun dives together and he is just helping me out crack the DS weighting.
Hope a few of the above may be useful and I am sure you will get there in the end and I wish you all the best of luck.