NERD2 since 2019. I would do it again.
Too heavy? Myth.
It does take several tried to dial it in. The little bracket that comes with it is not the right shape. They know it, they expect you to bend it into what you need. You have to do this.
No haptic? Not an issue. I run a Petrel as the controller, the NERD is the backup/heads up. Once you take a good rebreather class you will learn that you need 2 ways of monitoring your PPO2. The standard Petrel on the wrist runs the show. The NERD watches over the show. You can get the Petrel3 with haptic now. So you will still have that.
You didn't mention which rebreather(s) you are looking at. That can have an influence as well.
Without a NERD you will typically still have some form of heads up, blinky lights. So it isn't a question of a heads up display or not, it is a question of what form of heads up you will have. The NERD has the benefit over blinky lights in that you have a full bailout computer. It is watching the PPO2 and calculates deco just like the Petrel you will likely be using anyway. If you loose the Petrel, you have exactly the same controls and calculated deco in the NERD. Or the other way around. Run blinky lights, backup computer, programmed on planned dive gasses. Close, but if you have been chasing some gas issues for the dive before calling it, your deco plans may not be matched to what you actually have been diving. The NERD actually knows what you have been diving. The NERD actually simplifies the backup computer plans.
Maybe unit specific, but I added transmitters and the NERD now tracks gas usage during the dive. Useful for post dive data analysis. Also ditches the gauges, so a little cleaner in terms of stuff hanging off your chest. The Petrel won't read the transmitters (maybe they changed this, but the last I knew the CANBUS controller Petrels were not compatible with transmitters the last time I checked)
I am also making the assumption that you are looking at normal rebreather configuration with a Petrel as a controller and the NERD as a monitor. There are other ways of doing stuff, you can do the NERD as the controller and a Petrel as a monitor. Or two NERDs (one controller, other monitor). Nerd controller and blinky light heads up. And the list of different ways is nearly endless. So what other configurations are you considering.