InTheDrink:I would say that your biggest issue is intimidation.
I've been told that before and I try to work on it, but I have a hard time recognizing when I'm doing it. I don't post things I think are intimidating. It's certainly not intentional and I will continue to work on it.
InTheDrink:Certainly when I was new on this board and posted a particular event your comments were pithy and scathing and when I responded you never responded back. Not that I hold a grudge or anything
OK, I just conducted a search to find the offending thread. Were you posting as JClynes at the time? Was this about a wreck dive? I didn't see where you were looking for more feedback. It looked to me that your response showed you were getting your head screwed on right and had learned some valuable lessons from the dive.
InTheDrink:your very direct approach I think might not always be the best.
The counter argument to that of course is that your very direct approach made me analyse in much more detail the course of my action so I would also say that your engagement is very welcome but perhaps some of the ways you do it could use a little finesse-ing shall we say.
I'll work on finesse.
InTheDrink:Winning isn't always the desirable outcome in a discussion.
Winning is rarely my goal. I'm not a particularly competitive person. Often I continue a discussion long after I would like to quit not because I'm trying to win, but because someone seems to be misunderstanding my point. I really don't care if you agree or disagree, but I do want you to understand what I'm saying.
InTheDrink:I don't view swimming ability as a major concern to diving. I think they are different skills.
They are totally different skills. You don't need to know how to swim to dive. You do, however, need to know how to swim to reduce the likelyhood that you will panic when something goes wrong when you are diving. Most of what I do in my Open Water class is to reduce the chances of the diver panicking when things go wrong. Things do go wrong.