My CF is substantially warmer than my DC UltraFlex which (according to friends that have gone the other way) is warmer than a TLS. And its all about how much tolerance to cold you buy with the addition of more lead. The CF required adding very little lead and made a major difference in tolerance to cold. And after 90 minutes in the water with comparable undergarmets (everyone in 400g + Ar) everyone in TLSes are shivering cold. The divers around here who do 120+ min dives in TLS suits wind up adding additional layers of thinsulate to 400g and even more lead and the result starts to get fairly far away from balanced and restricts mobility. The CF also provides additional thermal insulation that won't be affected by a flood (and several divers around here have gotten into serious trouble on deep dives due to suit rips). You could add a heating pad, which is something nobody around here seems to have experimented with, but you lose that in a total flood as well...
I'm happy with my CF and so far I haven't seen anyone figure out how to comfortably dive a TLS around here on long, cold dives...
You do realize that everything you said completely contradicts physics. There are no substantial extra insulating properties to the CF material over any other shell suit. The difference in insulatiing value of 1mm of rubber over .5mm of Trilam is next to nothing. If your group is finding the CF warmer than the TLS suits using similar underwear then there are other elements in play than the material of the suit. My experience with the CF is that it tends to trap larger pockets of air in the folds. With the current trend of "shrink wrap" suits that would explain why folks tend to think the CF is warmer.
If the CF fans find comfort in their placebo, then more power to them. It just drives me batty when they try and BS everyone else with snake oil.