Great question! Thickness does help keep the diver warm, but if cool water is flushing in to the suit you'll get cold no matter how thick.
I would highly (and I mean highly) suggest you get a custom fit wetsuit. I dive a lot in California where it's between 50 and 75 degrees F, and I comfortably dive a 5mm
fullsuit with attached hood year-round, and add a vest underneath when it's coldest. I have tried many wetsuit styles and this one works best for me.
I get my suits from
JMJ Wetsuits, and they are *very* helpful - you should give them a call with your questions and take their recommendations - they know what they're doing and have helped tons of divers solve design challenges and made them great suits.
Hope that helps!
Derek