Ishie:
The defendant's message was posted here. Wasn't the first deleted because there was concern that the poster was not the defendant? When the defense is posted, is it then not valid to question the defense, using his own (translated) words combined with the available facts?
There is very active damage being done to this man's reputation and career. It may very well be deserved, but allowing him to defend himself pending verification will at worst delay the truth.
Ishie:
Since I feel that the emotional trauma of someone who has suffered a sexual attack by someone using life and death to force a power play is probably greater than someone who is being (even falsely) accused of it, I find it less risky to be supportive of the woman who brought this topic to the board rather than assuming she's suspect unless she can provide documentation that the legal system saw it her way in favor of lending "support" to the defendant, who apparently had enough to cause both PADI and local law enforcement concern, who is not present, thus does not really risk suffering greater emotional damage by having me shrug it off as unproven.
That may be your feeling but until you've personally experienced both sides of that coin you really are just guessing.
Personally, I have felt the side of the falsely accused. Once when I was still a teen I was working for an insurance company. I got into a disagreement with a coworker and, not my finest hour I admit, I was young, but I basicly implied that I didn't think much of her intelligence. Three days later I was brought into my bosses office with the companies lawyer. She had made up weeks of things I had said to "sexually harass" her. I had been tried and convicted before I had even known I had been accused. I was given the choice of signing a confession and agreement not to do it anymore or walk.
I was married at the time. This act of vengance could have cost a marrage as well as a job, and there was nothing I could do about it. It's been nearly 20 years and this event still clouds everything I do in an office setting. About 8 years ago I was working with another girl, who liked to forward adult humor to her coworkers. I collected 6 months worth of these emails before I ever sent her any. A couple of years later, after I had married her sister, it came out over drinks that I had done that. She was livid that I had been put into a sutation where that would be necissary.
Just so happened that that same sister and law and I worked at 2 different companies togther. There was a woman at the second company that shared an office with my sister in law. She was always trying to dance with execs at office parties and being very flirty. She all but admited to my sister in law that she was trying to get a good harrasment case against an exec for the money. Thankfully I wasn't high enough on the totum pole to be on that particular radar.
Real assaults happen and women really do take advantage of the policital climate and use false accusations as a weapon. Nobody should be so one sided to automaticly presume either is the case without proof.
I don't know what happend to Fonfon. Assuming a lack of physical evidence, there are only 2 people on the planet that ever will. I feel for her and I'm sorry for whatever happened or was perceived to have happend. I personally believe that something happened, but I
know that someone else's life, carreer and reputation is being slung through the mud, and no one is being allowed to question anything.
Personally, I feel that the one sidedness of the way this is being handled and the absolute assumption of guilt is criminal.
James