scubajenn81
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Hi,
Ok, this is my issue. This will be my 2nd Christmas with my husband, last year we went out to PA to spend it with his family, we decided that we would split holidays. I thought that meant one year at one family and the next year swap. He took it as Christmas at his place, other holidays at mine (mine is a lot closer). The issue is that we just discovered this mix up now. I have been telling my family that we would be there this year and he has done the same with his. I do not want to go to PA this year and he does not want to wait another 18 months to see his family again. Both families will be very upset if we chose the other side.
My husband suggested that we have our own Christmas before and then each go to our own families for a few days and then meet up again later in the week. I immediately said no, I want to spend it together, but now that I am thinking about it, I am not sure. Of course I want to spend it with him, but we split days all the time when we dated. We never had a holiday together then, our first was last year and I am capable of handing a few days apart.
My question is, would it look terrible to do this, would people assume we are going though issues (which we are defiantly not)? Going to PA at Thanksgiving/Easter is not possible so please do not suggest that. If he does not go at Christmas, he has to wait till next year.
My family is in MA (about a 1 hour dirve) and his is in PA (about 8 hours drive). All of his family is out there, his parents, sisters, nephews, grandparents, etc. I have not asked, but I am about 95% sure they would not come out here, plus, we have an apt so we can not fit that many people in one place at one time. We see my parents about one or two afternoons a month, with bdays, events, and it passing. We both are passionate about this issue and neither one wants to cave. If we do split this Christmas, what about next year, and then when kids come?
I am very torn. Thanks.
:shakehead
Ok, this is my issue. This will be my 2nd Christmas with my husband, last year we went out to PA to spend it with his family, we decided that we would split holidays. I thought that meant one year at one family and the next year swap. He took it as Christmas at his place, other holidays at mine (mine is a lot closer). The issue is that we just discovered this mix up now. I have been telling my family that we would be there this year and he has done the same with his. I do not want to go to PA this year and he does not want to wait another 18 months to see his family again. Both families will be very upset if we chose the other side.
My husband suggested that we have our own Christmas before and then each go to our own families for a few days and then meet up again later in the week. I immediately said no, I want to spend it together, but now that I am thinking about it, I am not sure. Of course I want to spend it with him, but we split days all the time when we dated. We never had a holiday together then, our first was last year and I am capable of handing a few days apart.
My question is, would it look terrible to do this, would people assume we are going though issues (which we are defiantly not)? Going to PA at Thanksgiving/Easter is not possible so please do not suggest that. If he does not go at Christmas, he has to wait till next year.
My family is in MA (about a 1 hour dirve) and his is in PA (about 8 hours drive). All of his family is out there, his parents, sisters, nephews, grandparents, etc. I have not asked, but I am about 95% sure they would not come out here, plus, we have an apt so we can not fit that many people in one place at one time. We see my parents about one or two afternoons a month, with bdays, events, and it passing. We both are passionate about this issue and neither one wants to cave. If we do split this Christmas, what about next year, and then when kids come?
I am very torn. Thanks.
:shakehead