You know, for what it's worth, I had a dive where I was diving high 30-something% and my buddies were on air (new/instabuddies). I told them I'm not going past 85fsw because of my mix, and we all agreed ok - this was a team of 3. It was in cold (50-55degreeF) low-viz waters on the edge of some kelp beds. There was structure in the form of rocks/reefs up at around 75-80fsw, but it was a little swim away from the drop point off the boat which is deeper and I think sandy at the bottom. We begin descending, and where I stop at 80fsw, they just kept going down past about 87fsw based on viz that day. I hadn't dove there a lot, but I think the bottom is at about 95-100fsw.
At that point, I thought to myself, ok well they aren't looking for my light and seem to just be going down to the bottom.. there are two of them and I guess if they disappear for more than a minute I'm just going right back up to the boat based on 5-8' viz, it was pretty cold (I'm in a wetsuit), it's a new site, and the scenario that it seemed most like was a lost-buddy scenario. If this happened, I would hope they would come back up too, having lost a buddy. Best case scenario they'd find me hanging out at 30fsw for a while, and I'd still hop out after that stop.
Luckily, they re-appeared from the murky-depths after what seemed an eternity but was probably just a few seconds later, and we stuck at the top of the structure for the rest of the dive. I definitely did lose some trust there.
Now, to answer the questions, theoretically:
1 & 2. If you're comfortable that that isn't risking your life to save your buddy, go for it. If it would be a risk, begin an ascent while (and I'm assuming this is a boat/someone is topside) shooting up an smb with a note that describes the situation if you have those items. Perform a safe ascent.
3. I would not dive with that buddy. That demonstrates intent to break the dive plan.
Having never been in that situation, thankfully, I can't say what I'd *actually* do.
At that point, I thought to myself, ok well they aren't looking for my light and seem to just be going down to the bottom.. there are two of them and I guess if they disappear for more than a minute I'm just going right back up to the boat based on 5-8' viz, it was pretty cold (I'm in a wetsuit), it's a new site, and the scenario that it seemed most like was a lost-buddy scenario. If this happened, I would hope they would come back up too, having lost a buddy. Best case scenario they'd find me hanging out at 30fsw for a while, and I'd still hop out after that stop.
Luckily, they re-appeared from the murky-depths after what seemed an eternity but was probably just a few seconds later, and we stuck at the top of the structure for the rest of the dive. I definitely did lose some trust there.
Now, to answer the questions, theoretically:
1 & 2. If you're comfortable that that isn't risking your life to save your buddy, go for it. If it would be a risk, begin an ascent while (and I'm assuming this is a boat/someone is topside) shooting up an smb with a note that describes the situation if you have those items. Perform a safe ascent.
3. I would not dive with that buddy. That demonstrates intent to break the dive plan.
Having never been in that situation, thankfully, I can't say what I'd *actually* do.