I think the octo-inflator "anti" arguments sound like good advice. In an emergency I think donating off the primary and having the safe-second right there on my neck intuitively seems safer. I have only had to donate air three times so far, but twice the panic from the other diver forced me to hand over my primary and use my octo.
It’s interesting that you described this. I’m really surprised: three times in under 100 dives seems like a lot…
I’ve mentioned before that my open water instructor described the octo as not being for your buddy, but for *you* when your body steals your primary regulator in an actual out of air emergency. The last time I mentioned that, I received pushback that others had never seen that in any out of air incident, ever. I’ve never had one either way, so I can’t say. In incidences I have been around, the diver with air instinctively gave the other diver the regulator in their mouth, because it was by far the easiest thing to do at that moment!
(ETA: 100% of these were “standard” recreational divers using “standard” secondary donate (“octo”) configurations — and therefore contrary to training!
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Ever since being pushed back on, I’ve paid attention to other peoples’ stories. It’s nice to hear your incidents as well.
just to answer your original question, I agree with many other people: personally, I use a long hose on my primary regulator, which I will donate to the out of gas diver, and switch to a back up hanging from a necklace around my neck. After years of using it, it is completely comfortable, streamlined and second nature. However, it did take a couple of years to get to that point with a 7 foot hose. I am 6‘2“, and even then sometimes it was difficult to know what to do with all that hose.
If you’re not going to be in an overhead environment, a 5 foot hose is often a common choice to hit the sweet spot of flexibility, usability and simplicity. Often with a 90° or swivel to ease jaw fatigue and improve hose routing.
At for the choice of brand: hog is a very solid brand chosen frequently by technical divers. There are a handful of similar designs on the market provided by hog, deep six, dive rite and others. Out of that collection of brands providing similar designs, other features probably help break the tie: cost of course, but also availability, commonality with other divers around you, availability of parts and service, etc. It’s really hard to go wrong with any of them.