Question about men only dive trips

[drbill]

It wasn't intended to be taken seriously. I guess it fell flat. Sorry.

R..

Sorry I missed that... sometimes (often?) my humor falls on deaf ears (or is it eyes) too.

 

[drbill]

I think they may have been referring to the availability of "painted ladies".

Actually many of them are boys who have undergone sex transformation ("lady boys")... I thought I was in heaven when a dozen of them approached and fawned over me on Koh Phi Phi (until a European friend told me who they were. There is a lot of involvement in sex slaves, etc., there although there are plenty of wholesome things to do in the country (including good diving).

 

[drbill]

Don't mean to appear to highjack this thread, but when I DO meet my wife (if I haven't already), I would MUCH rather go on a dive trip with her than with "the men." Too much talk about business and sports, and too much rot gut whiskey and stogies is not my idea of a fun time. I'd much rather be with her.

Several in this thread have suggested just talking about it with him which seems to be the most logical approach. He may prefer to be with you. Of course if he really wants his boy's trip, that really shouldn't be a big problem, right?

 

[dlndavid]

Good thing for you your friend was there.

 

[ktrjc]

Good God people, back the dive boat up. First I have been happily been married to my best friend for 30 years and if he has ever cheated on me ( and I don't think he would ) I don't want to know, he makes me very happy. Second the point was, if I asked him and the rest of the guys, I am sure they would say yes. These are very nice guys. But I wanted to know if this was fair to them. They really enjoy their time together. The guy things seems to be sitting around in smelly clothes, belching, and basking in each others glory as the stories become bigger and bigger. The problem with the situation is out of the 16 guys, only 5 wives dive but the rest of the wives would want to go too. So the guys are stuck. It becomes a hugh issue, and as I said they are really nice guys and I don't want to make it hard on them. As for the money thing, I was thinking that if I went later, he would go with me. I have never dive traveled without him, but the idea of a women's dive trip sounds pretty good. I asked two of the wives and they said no, not without the husbands so I will need to find other women divers. So if I tried to put together a women's dive trip would anyone be interested?

Fair would have to be decided by your husband and the guys. Maybe ask your husband if he minds or what he thinks of the idea. If he doesn't mind, then have him ask the guys, make sure he points out that the other wives may want to go too. Agree before hand what you will do if someone doesn't want you or the other wives to go. If you do go, be prepared for the smelly clothes and belching.

 

[Valwood1]

I've never been to the Galapagos, but my small bit of research on that site indicated that there really are two different "dive" trips: (1) the "hard-core-divers" trip spends more time at Wolf and ??? Islands in the northern? part of the islands, with less time on shore, and (2) a "dive-a-little-but-see-the-islands" trip dives easier sites and spends more time on shore. Maybe, women could take the latter trip and the guys the former one; I'm not suggesting the reverse because some of the wives don't dive, not because the women "can't" do the more difficult sites. Jeez! Political correctness is tough.

As an aside, my bride is a diver and great sport, but not as interested in diving as I am. Though she is incredibly accommodating about my diving, she'd be very unhappy if I went to the Galapagos alone -- and I'd feel pretty guilty about that, anyway.

Good luck.

 

[kywash]

Squidgy, I think it's very good of you to be worried about whether or not it's fair on the blokes. If, as you say, they are all decent chaps then I don't think anything would be wrong with asking them if you (and the other ladies) could join them. After all, it's got nothing to do with stopping them doing blokey stuff as you have no problem with them going on other men only trips but this is the Galapagos - location, location, location! You never know, it may be something they've discussed already.

Smokey Braden, as Stsomewhere said if you're 'chuffed' (in England) you're pleased not that letting one rip

 

[LeFlaneur]

Don't mean to appear to highjack this thread, but when I DO meet my wife (if I haven't already)....

Sounds like already met your wife on Ko Phi Phi, Dr. Bill... it's just that she was a man.
I mean if you're gonna be THAT picky ...

 

[Otter]

Ok here is the deal, my husband and his buddies go on a mens only dive trip once a year. That's okay cuz I like the time to myself and I know that sometimes men like to be ...well you know...men, but this time they are planning to go somewhere that I really want to go. We can't afford to go later with the wives too. I know if I pushed hard, they would say okay, but I don't know if this is the best way to handle it. There are 5 diver wives and the rest are non-divers, so there may be the problem of, if you let one go, then the rest goes too. What to do, what to do...
Did I mention that the dive next year might be Galapagos? And yes, hubby does take me diving other places, like Cozumel and Bonaire but still.. Galapagos. So what should I do?
Squidgy

Squidgy,
Galapagos is probably a once-in-a-lifetime activity and I bet that the buddies would understand and make an exception for the diving wives on this trip. Clearly the dynamics of the group change when wives are on board, BUT, when the group is as large as 15 people they change as well. Our guy's dive group went to Belize this February.....and we had 15 people in our group....many had never dived with us and didn't know the others very well. As one of the charter members, I felt somewhat obligated to hang with the newbies and didn't really have much of a chance to hang with the 'old group'.

I don't know if all of the wives would be interested in going, but the group could be as large as 20 (boat accomodating). That still leaves 10 or so 'stag divers' that can hang together during any land-based activities and on-board, its pretty much a non-issue.

A couple of questions....do the wives know each other? Are they ready for the strong currents of the Galapagos?

If they are competent divers, I'd say go for it.....

 

[DandyDon]

This really reminds me of some old, men-only fishing trip jokes, but I'll be nice and not post any....

Ok, my favorite punch line is: I did pack it! It was in your tackle box.

:lol:​