Do not do this dive with an insta buddy. Even if you did you should still follow the practice taught to you on your course. That is what a responsible person would do, saying 'I don't know you, you can sing for deco gas...' Isn't very nice.
That sounds like an assumption that I wouldn't discuss the dive plan and agree on it with whoever I end up buddied with. And that would be a false assumption. I would absolutely make sure my buddy is aware of what I'm carrying and is also diving to be self-sufficient.
Planning to be self-sufficient may be limiting on dive time. But, I would rather have that than put so much faith in someone I don't know. Hopefully, whoever I'm diving with will feel the same way. Someone who is willing to trust me with their contingency gas without even knowing me seems like someone I should be wary of diving with in the first place.
As far as following my training, I am following it. My training was to either plan to have enough back gas to deco on OR carry enough deco gas for me and my buddy and have my buddy do the same. In this case, I'm choosing to go with the former.
The only other option is to get someone I know and trust to come along as my buddy. And that is not feasible for this trip.
So, maybe this is my inexperience and naivety showing, but I feel like this plan is adequately safe. At MOST, I might do some very cautious light zone penetration, but I expect the majority of the dive will simply be swimming around the outside, looking in where I can. As far as the actual dive goes, it seems like it would be less challenging than the deco dive I did on the JB King in the Saint Lawrence River (max of 160', but not that long in time because it's a drift dive on a relatively small wreck site). I've done cavern dives in Dos Ojos (cenote in Mexico) and plenty of swim-throughs in NC and other wrecks, including swim-throughs in the Sea Tiger (105', off Waikiki) during a night dive. Just about all my training to date has been in cold (40f more or less) water with viz usually in the 5 - 10' range. I don't get anxious from being in an overhead and/or low viz.
I've been reading about diving the O. It doesn't seem particularly hazardous unless you start doing penetration in the areas below the flight deck. Am I missing something?
Also, I should note, from running a quick plan, if I'm diving to be able to do deco on back gas, it does mean that I could end up (if I lose my deco gas) having over an hour of deco. But, if that were to happen, one, I carry a jon line and could attach myself to the anchor line and hang as long as I have to with ease. And, two, I'll be carrying an extra deco cylinder on the boat. If I do lose mine, I would have a plan in place with my buddy and the boat captain for someone to bring me my other deco cylinder while I'm hanging.
And, really, how likely is it that either of us will actually lose our deco gas? Assuming we don't, it just means having maybe a 30 - 45 minute dive (depending on the whole multi-level thing) with probably 30 minutes or less of deco. And a solid plan in place for if either of us DOES lose our deco gas.