We really encourage the use of the "Reported Post" feature by our community. It's their way of letting us know what they find offensive. That way, the community reflects what YOU want, not just the mods.
By default, moderation is anonymous, but we often 'sign' our work. Mods are pretty good about letting people know what was deleted and why. No, we're not perfect, and life gets in the way. We're actually discussing this in the back room, so that we can better serve the community. While I was in the middle of a response, I ran out of Laptop juice. The AC adaptor had died and the battery was depleted. It was a three hour trip to a Best Buy to put me back to work.

I accidentally ran into the unfinished post, which I was certain I had posted before I ran out of juice. Whoops.