Given how many questions you have, it might be worth starting your own thread for your various pony-bottle questions.
Give this comment a read, I wrote this to answer common questions and to give tips and advice for pony-bottles:
Redundant Air
Octo or No-Octo: In most SideMount, you have two first-stages, and 2 second-stages (Each 1st stage has one 2nd stage). No octo. Assuming your pony-bottle is adequately-sized, you may consider ditching your octo. More hoses, means more clutter/entanglement/mess, and possible confusion (i.e. grabbing wrong regulator). You could even re-purpose your "octo" as a 2nd-stage for your pony-bottle, meaning you only really need another 1st-stage and SPG (or button-SPG).
A top priority, is that your pony regulator can be very quickly, reliably, and easily accessed in any emergency. Take a few breaths from your pony every dive. Practice switching regulators on the shore if you haven't done it in a while (I was guilty of this), and remember to purge or exhale when switching. Switch regulators underwater too, at least once per dive. Also ensure the pony reg can be found, by feel (no looking!) almost instantly. Stuff the hose under some bungies, use a retainer, or whatever you need to do, to ensure the pony-reg is always in the same place.
In SideMount, often one regulator (left/main tank) is on a necklace or long-hose properly wrapped. The other (right/secondary) is usually clipped to a d-ring on the chest, about in front of your collar-bone. You don't have to do that configuration, but it is an example configuration that works.
Personally, lately, I've been getting "lazy" and instead of clipping the pony, I leave the hose stuffed in bungies on the tank. The tank is slung, the reg is easy for me to access there, and it's one less step when donning my gear. And of course, I practice using it every dive.