But the problem is when they do as they trained and try to switch to the pony regulator, but it's nowhere to be found.
The premise is the pony bottle somehow increases danger over some standard configuration (single tank, 1 first, 2 second stages). Clearly, these types of incidents happen (as evidenced by a fairly active recent thread on ScubaBoard.), and worth examining so people don't make those mistakes. But those mistakes are also easily remedied. For example, practicing regulator switching and properly retaining your regulators.
There are plenty of ways to misuse a pony bottle. For example, thinking you can dive deeper or more dangerously, thinking a spare air is enough to get you to the surface, or using one as a dive-extender. The proof of the danger of pony bottles can't be to cite people who aren't using one properly. That would be like blaming scuba for someone untrained using scuba equipment in a pool and drowning. "Scuba is dangerous!" I mean kinda, but what really killed them was the lack of training.
Is SideMount dangerous? To someone completely untrained and unpracticed, sure it increases danger. But once you pass a basic competency level, it's generally safer. We have regulator switching, slinging tanks, and managing gas in multiple tanks.
(My pony setup is literally sidemount, with one tank smaller)
This is not a long hose setup so it won't be clipped off somewhere predictable or hanging on a necklace
...because we have to assume some level of incompetency, lack of practice, alertness, or training to create a scenario where a pony bottle would create danger wouldn't exist without the pony bottle.
As soon as competency is assumed, the pony bottle is safer in almost every scenario.