Lynne, you executed solving a problem with the goal of everyone surviving the dive. It amazes me that you are picking apart what you did "wrong"
Quote "And finally, any weaknesses in your dive will show up when something goes wrong. In this case, I did not identify the fastest route to shore. I was headed in, but too far south. The site is one I don't dive often, and we were off the routine navigation markers, and I didn't have time to look for them. Because Bob and Kelly stayed with us, we had better navigational information, because Bob practically lives at this site, and knew precisely where we were.
What made Peter sick is unclear. If there is anything wrong with the gas (which I doubt, since I'm pretty sure my tank was filled at the same place and at the same time) it wasn't apparent until we were at the deepest part of the dive. Is it possible that there is something in the gas that isn't a problem until it's concentrated? I suppose. But that still doesn't explain why my tank was fine.
It was a strange episode, not handled perfectly, but certainly handled well enough to get everybody home in good shape."
You also called donating ooa as "clumsy".
Give yourself a break, you reacted well with your training. Training drills are expected scenerios. You were in a real situation and reacted to how you were trained, the additional stress of it being a loved one is real. Clumsy, weakness, not handled perfectly?
Real emergencies are rarely graceful, strong or perfect.