It sounds like you were bent from simply being overly aggressive with your diving, even tho you don't have those profiles - and we don't know about other possible risk issues that could have been in play. I can certainly understand why you'd really want to avoid another hit after being injured before, but your plans are certainly overly cautious.
I'll share my views on your list. You can compare them to others views, ignore them, or whatever...
PFO discussions after hits are popular among divers, but the DAN study with several leading dive doctors just does not support the concern. 25-30% of divers have PFOs but hardly anyone gets bent, so there's got to be a lot more to the story. They may decide in time that there is a direct correlation, but not yet - and PFO exams are not without risk. At least read before proceeding with that idea:
Alert Diver | PFO and Decompression Illness in Recreational Divers
1. Make sure I'm in good physical shape, including all bloodwork (I'm 40s, healthy, no medications). Always a good approach.
2. Buy primary and backup computer (and a conservative one like Suunuto). Find my dive table or get another one! Your computer should include a dive planning feature better than tables. If you really want 2 computers, make sure they're the same brand.
3. Buy BCS, reg, backup air...and get really comfortable with my own gear. Well, I dive a pony by my choice, but that's a different story really.
4. Get Nitrox Certified. Good tool to have.
5. Dive Nitrox on air profile. With a Suunto computer?! It's hard enough to find buddies who will dive with a Suunto diver as they are excessively conservative, but that's just too much, IMO.
6. Do PADI refresher course. OK, or just move on to AOW course instead.
7. Take first vacation somewhere where there is a Deco chamber within an hour or so (I thinking GC, just because I know I'm in good medical hands there). There are many dive destinations with available chambers.
8. This is the hardest one...what should my dive schedule be? (1 dive only a day? 2 dives one day, next day off?). I know what the tables tell me I can do....I'm just wondering what is prudent. I think you just screwed up before and would be fine with 2 or 3 dives done right a day.
9. Can I start out slowly, make sure there is no response, then increase my dives to normal recreational schedule? If so, should this be for each subsequent trip (I am a pretty fish diver and generally only dive on vacation to warm weather destinations). Study your computer, know it well, dive it safely, while getting plenty of rest & liquids on the trip. My Oceanic computers have green, yellow, and red zones - and I like to avoid red (deco), and if in the yellow - extend my safety stops long enough to get back in the green before surfacing. Then I like to float on the surface without moving for a full minute, and when I do go for the ladder - make the exit as easy as possible, avoiding strenuous activity. I love it when the boat mater offers to pull my gear up for me so I can climb out without it. Slow ascents are important too, and I guess you knew that, but-?
10. Finally, how do you plan your week, if you are diving with an operator and you don't know what dive sites you are going to? Do you just plan as you go (i.e. after the dive briefing and by looking at your computer?) Yep, using my computer dive plan mode.