Hum...part of the reason I considered walking away is I didn't want things to get ugly. BT, Ittyninja and myself are truly the only ones who know exactly what happened that day. It is hard to know exactly what happened unless you were there on each dive, but I did try to explain it as best I could and as objectively as I could. And unfortunately the gentleman who called me from the mine was only on our 3rd dive of the day, so even he didn't have all the facts straight for dives 1 and 2. Which is one reason we got into an arguement when he tried to tell me someone from our dive group escorted Ittyninja back to the doc when she accidentally surface (a buoyancy issue, and no one from our dive group knew where she was.) It was bad enough of a disagreement that I ended up saying "SIR, please do not do that to me!!!" and contemplated hanging up on him. I'm actually not a big confrontational person. However, I do like to get things worked out and resolved. And I truly do care about safety, learning and making things better where they could be.
Net Doc, I truly truly am glad that you like it. And my review was not at all to persuade people to dislike it. And there is no one out there in the world that wanted me to like BT more than me. I hate that I live in the no man's land of diving!!! I hate that so much! I really wanted a nice place that was close that I could dive in the winter time, without having to take a plane ride.
I do, just like you, hope that the intention of the phone call was to talk over the problems and figure out solutions to it. However, it didn't feel like that for the majority of the call.

Which is highly unfortunate. You know me Net Doc (though I know not very well), but you know I'm new and I come to SB to learn and I post help other new divers learn. I typically post about each dive I do, and talk about all of it, including what I did wrong. Heck I even posted how horrible I was on my first lake dive.
I definitely was overloaded in this dive, worrying about myself and my friend. That absolutely affected my day and if it ever looked like I was trying to say the mine was 100% at fault for my stressful day that was not at all my intentions. I have however dove with Ittyninja before in a different enviornment and was still worried about her which did affect my dive, but it just never got like this. It was a very emotional day, and it really shook me that she was lost in the moment that was so critical and we knew she could panic. That was probably my worst diving moment ever, not knowing where she was. I mean, we did have a dive plan about this spot, and it failed. And I lost her. And BT lost her. It was one of those unfortunate things that thankfully everything ended up being okay. I don't blame BT fully for this...she and I buddied up, so it was partially my issue.
But, I really tried to offer things that could be done by BT to make the next person's experience better. I agree the miner hat or anything that would help the guides & safeties stand out would be great. I think the guide does stand out a bit because he has a light (and no one else does on Trail 1 at least), but when you're staying to the back, sometimes you don't see the guide and it would be great to know who the safety was.
The phone call was upsetting, absolutely, and when I asked the gentleman if he would like to hear more about what happened on the day, he said, no I already read your review. I was so surprised by that, and asked well then I'm confused by the purpose of this phone call then? So, in summary, yep, I had a really bad day. There were many reasons involved in that, that I felt like I tried to be as open as possible about that. BT is not 100% responsible for the stress I felt that day. And at one point in the call the guy with BT did say a few things they did wrong, after I asked him, then what mistakes did you guys make?
To be clear on one more thing, CD, I wasn't asked to take it down. I was just really upset and didn't understand how it looked so harsh. I thought I was just giving an objective account of the day and wanted to see from someone's eyes that I hadn't talked to after the dive.
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One more thing...I still feel the same way I did before, and the phone call made it worse. So, I'll be catching a plane to dive in the winter. Hopefully this helps clear things up.