Aquabella
"You don't look like you're very old"
My wife tells me I'm the oldest 33 yr old she knows. I'm not sure how to take that comment at times??? ( I got started in this when I was 6, been with it ever since)
Change in my abilities??? Good question. I would say the answer would be a change in attitude. What I mean by that is I spent a lot of time in several styles that emphasized high kicks. When I became more "mature
" I realized that my tournament days were going to come to an end so I started looking at systems based on realism. Training that is solely focused on self defense as opposed to some of the stuff being taught in certain styles. I was concerned that I was going to have a false sense of security if I didn't look for other styles to compliment the basic foundation. I am intentionally not mentioning styles because I believe that there is no one style that is better than the others. There are those that are better suited to my familiy and my goals but may not be towards yours.
I teach my daughters a little bit of the style that incorporates the higher kicks (good for their coordination) as well as some of the Filipino stuff I have learned (stick and knife). Never too earlier to teach my daughters how to take care of themselves in case some boy gets frisky with them.:mean: ...
. Then, if there was anything left, the boy would have to deal with me...
. My wife studies a rape prevention program we offered at our school which was developed out of the "Model Mugger" program. Very intense and the most realistic program I have ever been involved with. It is as close to an actual "encounter" (attempted rape) that is possible without putting the student (women) on the street looking for trouble. Watching the students become empowered always conjures up thoughts that "here is a group of women that could take on a group of Marines and come out on top." It is really remarkable what these women can accomplish.
I listed some of the "stuff" we do but again, your goals may be different. This addresses your initial question about a change in my abilities. When sparring either doing a free-flow drill (free for all with sticks where there are no patterns and just about anything goes) or putting on the pads, I have become more calculating than when I was younger. The change again is related to the mental elements more so than the physical.
Regarding your stretching program the key is to be consistant, as with anything. You don't need to be able to do the splits in a week (that's great if you can) but to be consistant, that is the key. There will be weeks, maybe months that you will feel that you are making no progress whatsoever. Don't give up, stay with it. It isn't always going to be easy ( but that is what develops the "indomitable spirit" you will hear about) This activity will begin to forge a mental strength that will only grow and will be transferrable to every activity you are involved in.
I have noticed that sometimes it takes me longer to stretch to accomplish what I was able to at an earlier age, maybe that's just me. Not knowing how active you were prior, I can't say how you will do. My belief is that if you truly want to be able to accomplish something, you will be able to find a way to make it happen. Don't compare yourself to others in your class that have been involved longer in this. Look at them and tell yourself you respect where they are at but want to be better doing... (fill in the blank). Look to them for input, use what is useful and disgard the rest.
How is that for a long answer to your question?
Best Regards
Don