Gidds:A couple people mentioned by local dive club or the forum for my region. Pretty much everybody there is also male. The few people I have met from here are guys who like to hang around at 85' and don't like to look around for butterfly fish the size of dimes apparently. What exactly DO guys do at 85' anyway or do I want to know?
air consumption would be relatively similar
the whole "internet guy" creepiness/very real danger factor
guys that are my size are often wimpy and who wants to dive with wimpy guys?
guys my age are obnoxious
I guess I shall resign myself to having older male dive buddies most of the time
I'm sure there's more than one local dive club in your area..
85' - there's probably something interesting down there.. I don't think people just hang at one depth for the whole dive unless there's something to see. Did you ask them what's at 85'?
Air consumption- yup, women generally do much better... so if you can't find a woman, try a guy with a larger tank (steel 120 or doubles). That way their heavy air consumption won't cut your dive short.. in fact, you'll run out before them.
Wimpy guys.. you just mentioned that you didn't feel confident lugging a heavy guy through the water in case of emergency.. Wimpy guys aren't as heavy
An older guy will probably be more responsible and less apt to take chances that a younger "macho" will might... so heres the bottom line:
Get a wimpy older man with a large tank/doubles....
But then again, a wimpy man can't carry your gear or tanks ...hmmm...
Personally, I appreciate my dive buddies...they are male, but I'd have no problem diving with a woman.. All I ask for is a safe, level headed, responsible, buddy (preferably with a good sense of humor. )