In the context of the OP's post/question...
What I read once again:
I did this but don't recommend it.
People shouldn't do it.
People can "always" find buddies.
Is stressful for the non diving relatives.
All just opinions, for which OP was asking.
These above may be applicable to certain people, but I doubt is a big percentage of divers.
So you opine...
"not a big percentage of divers" say "I did this but don't recommend it." OK, I do agree this is not most solo divers. As for myself, I
prefer to dive solo if my regular (100 plus dives) buddy is not available. I will most always dive with an instabuddy if they need a buddy and ask, especially if it's a new diver. But I don't enjoy it nearly as much as I would a solo dive.
"not a big percentage of divers" say people shouldn't do it (solo dive)?
My opinion (and by your statement, most people in this thread) is
if you are not
1.)equiped and solo trained
or
2.)equiped and experienced
(which IS most divers) you shouldn't solo dive. I think that is common sense and was taught in my self reliant class. To advise anything else, especially to a new diver, is unwise.
"not a big percentage of divers" can always find a buddy?
In this context, a buddy would be just "someone to join so I am allowed to dive". That has not been my experience. In fact there are numerous buddy groups that meet up first online and then in person at dive sites. This happens every weekend at my local quarry. There is the occasional diver unable to find a buddy, but it is rare.
"not a big percentage of divers" consider their diving "stressful for the non diving relatives."
Am I the ONLY diver that has to text (more than one) loved ones when I am out of the water for the day?
Also, it's true, back in the day, divers dove solo without "solo training", often with single tanks and no octos. Was it wise to do so? If you ask them, they will likely say it was not. They were the pioneers on the cutting edge of the sport and they learned alot (everything we now know). Many things they learned the hard way, by getting hurt or worse. It's their sacrafices that have taught us that there are better ways to do things. I see no reason to allow new divers to repeat the lessons that the sport's groundbreakers learned.
Dive your way, enjoy your dive however you like to do it.
That's it... no need to have others dive your way. One way does not fit all
I agree 100%, as long as the divers involved in the conversation have the experience to make an informed decision on how they want to dive. Not the case with the OP or this thread. "Dive like you want to dive and let me dive like I want to dive" is a beautiful statement, and I absolutely agree with it...when made by an experienced diver to another experienced diver. Not so much when one of the divers has less than 15 dives.