I really don't like the 10MM. I routinely carry 45ACP so it's not that 10mm is a big round. I don't find it to be a good shooting caliber.
All depends on the gun. Colt Delta Elite, or even a Glock 20, very manageable. At least for me.
One thing with the higher recoil rounds...you'd better have your grip and stance totally in order. From what I've seen over years of instructing, those two fundamentals are almost always the cause of difficult follow-up shots with calibers such as 10mm.