How to handle non diving husband who is being difficult....

[uncfnp]

Is it possible that he is worried about your safety?

 

[Wookie]

Dude this is the Womens forum - This is a forum where our female members are welcome to talk about ideas, concerns, and anything surrounding diving that their male counterparts - and some women as well - may not experience or care about.

My apologies, I didn't even realize this was Women's forum. I'll leave now.

 

[ladyfishdvr]

My apologies, I didn't even realize this was Women's forum. I'll leave now.

No you dont have to leave. That reply was not addressed to your post. I liked your post.

 

[JamesK]

Dude this is the Womens forum - This is a forum where our female members are welcome to talk about ideas, concerns, and anything surrounding diving that their male counterparts - and some women as well - may not experience or care about.

I apologize. I did not see it was on the woman's forum. Tapatalk does not always show that for me. However, does that make my answer any less true? I don't understand your rant towards me. Btw, more then half your replies are from men. This might be a topic that would be good to get advice from both sexes!

---------- Post added May 17th, 2013 at 08:38 AM ----------

My apologies, I didn't even realize this was Women's forum. I'll leave now.

No only my post made her mad. Suggesting counseling apparently is something that hit a nerve with her. Although, she did "like" the post above mine that suggested it.

 

[ladyfishdvr]

I apologize. I did not see it was on the woman's forum. Tapatalk does not always show that for me. However, does that make my answer any less true? I don't understand your rant towards me. Btw, more then half your replies are from men. This might be a topic that would be good to get advice from both sexes!

You said this Sounds like y'all have issues better worked out in counseling then here.

I posted here for advice from Men or Women who dive in the Women's forum. It sounded like your original post was saying I should not have asked this question here.
Thus my comment on it being the Women's forum and definition. No rant intended.

 

[doctormike]

Scubaboard is a great place get advice from some of the foremost experts in the world about equipment, dive planning, gas management, underwater photography, etc... However, you don't have a diving problem, you have a relationship problem. And even if we all (or any of us) were experts in THAT field, it's hard to offer advice based solely on your brief initial post. I don't know about the rest of the board, but this is NOT my first marriage!

I have a non-diving wife. She is very understanding about my addiction, and actually enjoys the company of my diving friends. And she understands that I need to have this, and she knows that even though she will never dive with me, I still love her and care about her. But this is an uncommon situation, and not everyone is that lucky.

I'm not sure from your post if the issue is a control one (that he's not comfortable with your making friends outside of the marriage, with the potential for trips, etc..), or a financial one (even if it's "your money", if you are married then what you spend affects the whole family- trust me on this one). Besides, if you are already hiding purchases from him at the BC stage, just think how hard it's going to be when you have to pick up a rebreather!

Diving is great, we all love it, but it sounds like you need to have some serious conversations (possibly with some third party help) before things really blow up.

 

[JamesK]

You said this Sounds like y'all have issues better worked out in counseling then here.

I posted here for advice from Men or Women who dive in the Women's forum. It sounded like your original post was saying I should not have asked this question here.
Thus my comment on it being the Women's forum and definition. No rant intended.

Not at all. I never said anything that was meant to infer you should not ask here. However, you two obviously have a serious issue that could destroy a marriage. Their are three side to every story. Yours, his, and somewhere I. The middle is the truth. Without seeing his side of the story all that can be offered here is pure speculation. No one can say any different. So my comment of counseling is better to help you resolve your issues than a one sides discussion here is true.

 

[doctormike]

Just saw the other subsequent posts, I also had no idea this was the women's forum. I just see a list of thread titles when I look for new threads. Sorry to intrude, will delete my post if you like.

 

[ladyfishdvr]

I'm sorry I asked the question. How do I delete the entire thread.

 

[Superlyte27]

Don't delete the thread. Don't be sorry for the post. We're sorry you are having these issues. We all genuinely hope you work it out. Does he not find scuba diving interesting?

I agree that this is not a diving issue, but some other relationship issue. If it were me, and I were behaving that way, it probably wouldn't be an issue of jealously, but rather an issue of feeling abandoned or feeling like I couldn't provide you with whatever you were lacking and you had to look elsewhere for it. I've found in my marriage of 17 years, that no matter how bad I perceived things were going, anything could be fixed by extra attention, especially if that extra attention came in the bedroom.

To be clear, I'm not a woman, posting in the women's forum. My apologies.