I think one of the best lessons I learned in my OW class was having the experience of screwing up a mask clear, choking, and wanting to bolt, and being forced (although in my case, it wasn't physically forced) to remain at depth and solve the problem. I learned a bunch of things from that experience -- that I could choke and cough and still breathe underwater, and that I could control my anxiety and solve problems at depth. That lesson has stood me in very good stead on a couple of subsequent occasions when much more perturbing things have occurred.
I think that somebody who has represented themselves as ready for their OW dives could be assumed to be able to flood and clear a mask in the pool. I don't think that was an uncalled-for request, although it's not clear to me what the instructor was doing with respect to the OP and her companion. (Was he doing a refresher, or just supervising, or just meddling?)
And it is not clear from the original story, whether the person who tried to control the rapid ascent was a professional at all, or just a student who was in the water and saw something they thought was dangerous. If the latter, they were probably out of line; if the former, it may have been a real attempt to prevent an accident and teach a lesson, which backfired because the rescuer didn't know the OP and didn't realize her state of mind.
It was an unpleasant experience, but it's highly unlikely to be duplicated in subsequent diving, UNLESS the OP has the experience of bolting again, and a responsible buddy tries to stop it. So it's a good idea to work through issues until the desire to bolt is controllable.
Diving's well worth the effort to get these things solved, but comfort with and without a mask, and with a little salt water in one's throat, are important goals to reach for safety.