I have to admit, I am surprised that because someone chooses to take greater care of their dive gear, it could be an annoyance to someone else
I don't' think that's teh case. I do think there are a lot of old wives tales regarding gear.
If you see how abused rental gear is and how well it lasts you'll realise how resilient it is. But One should look after yoru own investment better than that.
To give you an example: If I'm multi day teaching my gear gets little more than a cursory rinse with a hose. I'll give my reg mouth pieces a good wipe as there's nothing worse than a salty reg in the morning. Likewise on multi week vacations. My gear doesn't' get washed until teh end of a week (if moving location) and before I fly home it again just has a quick rinse.
When I get home or complete my teaching it all goes into one on my two large wash bins at home over night. At least once a month (depending on dive frequency)I'll remove the dump valves and inflator hose off my BCD's, and make sure the BCD is fully immersed and filled I'll do this for my dSMB's too
All my gear gets a wipe over with a soapy cloth to dislodge grime etc.
So two extremes.
My point is that you don't need to keep yoru gear really clean after each and every dive day, but one should clean it to the best of yru ability regularly (especially if you have a dive season) and more importantly inspect it, pay attention to those small but annoying O ring leaks - check hoses have regs serviced etc et.
But that's just my opinion