lermontov
Contributor
But we do have enlightening discussions, and I learn a lot here. And the mods do yeoman's work to keep things on track, weed out inappropriate comments and (in cases like the Conception tragedy), maintain a running summary of what is known to date.
Maybe we look at it from different parts of our personality make up - one side struggling with the loss and trying to come to terms with a lost fellow diver from an emotional perspective, and see the questions and queries as repulsive and intrusive.
Another type also struggling with the loss but coming to grips with it by trying to make sense of it all by analysis so that it can be 'pigeonholed' and maybe then emotionally come to terms with it. Our brains have a habit of wanting incomplete puzzles to be sorted and understood- it makes US feel better
Or maybe some sort of anxiety or self preservation wanting to know what happened to make sure I don't fall victim to the same mistake or misunderstanding.
As selfish as it may seem I want to know for my sake, I want to know how an experienced ccr diver died so i dont, and maybe i can warn others - I think that's a good enough reason