A couple of suggestions that helped me. First, start equalizing BEFORE your head goes under water, pre-pressurizing if you like, and keep it up very frequently, if you get to the point of any pain at all, you have already gone too far. A second problem I have, which I found quite by accident, was when I would go down feet first I look down and that was appearently pinching off my eustachian tubes. I now go down head first and that has helped that problem....I would suggest that it might not be the best thing for a new diver to try, head first that is, but as an alternative, looking up while decending feet first for a few feet, stopping, looking down to assure a clear path and decending a few more feet might be a better option. It does get easier with practice.