I watched the video, and there are things I really don't understand. First off, why would someone stay underwater at safety stop depth until they ran out of gas? What I get from the video was that the diver couldn't pass the people above him, but the filmed was able to let go of the line and go hover near the LOA diver, so that implies current was not so strong that you couldn't let go of the upline -- and so does the fact that the diver DID in fact let go, and swam to the boat. So why hang out underwater until you run out of air? Have we done such a poor job of teaching the significant of a safety stop, that someone will die to do one?
The unwillingness to take an offered regulator is pretty weird, too, unless the diver didn't feel he could share gas safely. I have been involved in two LOA situations where I offered my long hose, and in both cases, the diver involved took it without demurral. In fact, the reason I switched to a long hose in the first place, was after watching a situation where somebody ran a bit uncomfortably low on a dive, and took an offered long hose to swim comfortably back to shore, rather than surfacing to a long surface swim.
I HEARTILY agree that the best way to deal with a problem is not to have it in the first place, and that recognizing the signs of stress in a diver is an important way to identify a potential disaster and try to head it off. But in this case, I think I might have been a bit more "in his face" about either going up or accepting a regulator.