Vengro:
It seems like the question was answered, but now I'm confused. What's the difference between exhaling all the way up and simply keeping your airways open? How can you tell if your airways are open or not?
Let's talk about how this feels in comparison with some other feelings you already know about:
First, when you do a breath hold dive, you inhale, close off the airway and then descend, etc. To check the feeling of closing off the airway, while not diving--like right now--after taking the breath, if you tighten your abodomen and rib cage muscles like when you are straining to lift something, you can feel air being forced against the closed off airway but it will not escape. You can actually feel like your throat is closed off and you can feel the pressure trying to force the air against it.
Next step in the progression: if you are blowing up a balloon, you take a breath, constrict those same muscles and exhert yourself to push against the force of the balloon, filling it. You have now done as before but you have not closed off the airway.
Next step: Take a nice deep breath, again while not diving--this is just to get the correct feeling of what it is like to do this properly. This time, after filling your lungs, do no push the air out; just let your lungs do what they might without pushing the air out. You will notice that a fair amount of gas is exhaled out of your lungs without forcing it out.
One last exercise: do the same thing again: fill your lungs. Then, relax them and let them drain on their own. Once this stops on its own, then start pushing the exhalation a bit (like blowing up the balloon) just to get the feeling of where the natural expulsion of gas stops and your controlled exhalation starts. This serves no diving purpose other than to get in touch with your feeling of when you are pushing and when you are not. You do not actually do this when diving during an emergency swimming ascent.
Now, you know all of the feeling of doing it right versus when you are forcing (even gently) gas out of your lungs. Just like the exercise you did where you took a deep breath and then relaxed, letting the gas escape on its own without pushing, that is how you want to be during the ESA. This way, you keep any potential oxygen for exchange to your body in your lungs during the ascent but do not get a lung overexpansion injury.
Last, go out and practice in about 30 feet of water with an instructor and under the instructor's guidance. You will really feel the gas expanding and leaving your lungs during the last ten feet or so during the ascent. Once you feel it actually happening, you will get it. It is a balance between ascent speed control, so that you can make it to the surface, and allowing the existing gas to expand so that you don't feel like you are running out of breath.