I'm class of 1981. Now I am treasurer/Assistant Scoutmaster in my son's troop - 439 in Kensington, MD. Still trying to get him to finish up the last two requirements for Tenderfoot after 1 year in scouts. Any suggestions on how to get him moving? It seems the more I push, the more he pushes back.
I not an Eagle, but I'm the father of one (well, waiting for the final signature from Irving, TX) and a Scoutmaster, so I can give a somewhat informed bit of advice.
Don't push your son. Get other adult leaders or - better yet - youth leaders to pull him.
Right now, your son is going through his own personal struggle with dependence and independence. Remember the problems you and he had when he was two? The EXACT SAME ISSUES are going on now. You've already observed that the more you push, the more he pushes back. THAT'S NORMAL!
The best thing is for "dad" to take a back seat and simply ensure that nothing horrible happens. Rather than pushing, talk to the Scoutmaster about your son's progress. Maybe he'll have a SM Conference. Maybe the SM will talk to your son's Patrol Leader and encourage him to see that those last few requirements for Tenderfoot get done. Heck! With summer camp around the corner, your son will likely take care of those there.
The more you act like the Treasurer / Asst. SM and the less you act like "dad," the more your son will get out of the program. When he accomplishes things for his own or his patrol's or his troop's sake, he'll be taking important (and productive) steps towards the independence he seeks. If it does it for "dad," he's going backwards.
I've seen EVERY Scout go through a period of when they have to make the decision of whether they're in Scouting for their parents or for themselves. Sometimes we lose the Scout. But when we don't, we've got them for life.
Good luck and happy Scouting.