fnfalman
Contributor
I think that the big thing to avoid is the mother henning of the other dive buddy. Treat your SO as another dive buddy, no more no less.
When you mother hen your dive buddy, he or she tends to get pissed off and YOU tend to FORGET about your own dive.
I've been involved in a scenario where the Daddy self-appointed himself to be the Dive Master even though he, the wife and the teen daughter all had the same amounts of dives and trainings. He was fussing over their gears while rigged up his own gears incorrectly. In the water both him and the wife were fussing over the daughter who was the most composed in the water. And yes, the Daddy was suppose to be my buddy. He wasn't looking out for me, his dive buddy, but instead checking on the people who didn't need checking on. I'm sure that he felt justified because he's the Father and Husband, but all it did was made everybody else's day a sucky one.
The second situation was husband and wife fresh out of OW, neither knew much of anything. The wife pretty much sat there and the husband literally had to gear her up and took her hands in the water. So, here we have a less-than-ten-dives OW diver who is playing Dive Guide/Divemaster to his certified wife who's acting like she's on Discovery Scuba dive.
Everybody survived their dive days, yet I couldn't help but wonder if the Daddy had minded his own business and stuck with me HIS BUDDY, maybe his wife and daughter wouldn't have gotten pissed off and terminated the dive early. And in the second case, maybe the husband would have been able to dive more safely and learn something instead of being nursemaid to his wife.
When you mother hen your dive buddy, he or she tends to get pissed off and YOU tend to FORGET about your own dive.
I've been involved in a scenario where the Daddy self-appointed himself to be the Dive Master even though he, the wife and the teen daughter all had the same amounts of dives and trainings. He was fussing over their gears while rigged up his own gears incorrectly. In the water both him and the wife were fussing over the daughter who was the most composed in the water. And yes, the Daddy was suppose to be my buddy. He wasn't looking out for me, his dive buddy, but instead checking on the people who didn't need checking on. I'm sure that he felt justified because he's the Father and Husband, but all it did was made everybody else's day a sucky one.
The second situation was husband and wife fresh out of OW, neither knew much of anything. The wife pretty much sat there and the husband literally had to gear her up and took her hands in the water. So, here we have a less-than-ten-dives OW diver who is playing Dive Guide/Divemaster to his certified wife who's acting like she's on Discovery Scuba dive.
Everybody survived their dive days, yet I couldn't help but wonder if the Daddy had minded his own business and stuck with me HIS BUDDY, maybe his wife and daughter wouldn't have gotten pissed off and terminated the dive early. And in the second case, maybe the husband would have been able to dive more safely and learn something instead of being nursemaid to his wife.